Got Resolutions? Phooey!

Well, folks, 2009 is only hours away, but I wanted to take a few minutes to reflect on the past 12 months and to look ahead to a bright new year. Before I started writing this post I could only remember the many resolutions I made last December – and then broke. In fact, none of my resolutions panned out the way I envisioned. But sitting yesterday at work, done with cleaning out my files and unable to blog due to new LAN settings (grrrr – I guess I can’t even do this on my lunch hour anymore), I began to view my results a little differently:

I still swore some…but I swore less. Fucking great, right?! (Ha, you knew I had to add that in!)

I didn’t move my body as much as I should have, and, frankly, gained 10 pounds as a result – not so great considering I had already gained many pounds on top of that in the past five years. I have, however, accepted my decisions, good and bad, and acknowledge enough is enough. And so we try again.

One new-old activity I did try: I bought a bike and rode for the first time in years – how I’d forgotten how fun and freeing riding can be! And for what little activity my body got in the last 12 months, my mind and heart were more active than I ever thought possible. Not so bad…

Resolutions and reflections wouldn’t be complete without some mention of my novel or writing. I became a regular contributor online. I met some really cool people and made new writing connections, some I haven’t even written about here. Plus, I polished my novel and got a few literary agents interested enough to request and read my partial and/or full manuscript — albeit, all rejecting it in the end. There’s really no down side to that, though; it leaves me with hope because not everyone gets that far. I have my next round of agents to contact in January, but am 100% at peace if I can’t get it published because I have more writing (and I suspect even better writing) in me. My energy is telling me to move on, which brings me to…

…I didn’t start the novel I briefly sketched out last fall, but it’s still bouncing around in my head. Plus, I recently came up with an idea for a nonfiction book that I think might work…and a few articles I’d like to pitch…hmmm. So many possibilities!

One or two people have suggested that maybe the book (and even this blog) was to help me sort through a trying time in my life. Maybe, although I think any writer would tell you that paying for therapy is a lot easier! The one thing I know is that I’d like to do this in some form over the long-haul, whatever that means.

I’m not sure how random my kindness was in 2008, but I continued volunteering for an organization helping single mothers that I believe in and attempted to do a better job at showing – and telling – my friends and family how much they mean to me. It really is true that you get what you give, and I’ve received a lot of love and fulfillment in return.

As far as my piano-playing, well, let’s just say it remained an expensive piece of quiet furniture. Looks nice, though.

I had loads of fun this year, even without signing up for the NanoWrimo (not the NoBloMoMo) Big Fun Scary Challenge. Do you think I could go in and retroactively check off the fact I jumped out of a plane? Or went to Chicago to hang with my cousin and pals? Or sent my novel out into the world of publishing (with a few supportive words from a couple of wise guys)? Or went to my first professional football and hockey games (go Steelers and Pens!)? Or took a chance on love again?

(Or continually amuse myself when I sometimes write melodramatic things like “took a chance on love again” as if doing a voiceover for a Lifetime movie?)

Yeah, I’d say 2008 was a good year.

Here’s to ’09 – with no planning ahead!

PS. What’s not in your plans for the New Year??


14 thoughts on “Got Resolutions? Phooey!

  1. It sounds to me like 2008 was a pretty darn good year for you. Woohoo!

    I’ll just add a tiny nagging note here that though the new novel tempts you, whispering sweet nothings in your ear, the existing novel manuscript is a real and wonderful thing. Don’t give up on all the work you’ve done, and done well! I hope you’ll send it out for the next round of submissions.

    Happy New Year!

  2. Oh, my dear Cindy who keeps me on task! (Folks, Cynthia here suffered through many, many chapters of my first draft –and offered many, many great suggestions, which I took– so she knows the novel in question.) Never fear: I’m definitely going to send more queries in January. I’ve gone through 10-12 agents so far, but have at least another dozen I plan to contact. You never know; it’s just that I can’t bear to look at the pages myself or tinker around with it for a while!

  3. Happy New Year! I want to write more, lots more, in 2009. And get more into the Pittsburgh blogging community. While still being an exemplarary (??) wife and mother of course. πŸ˜‰


  4. I’d say you had a fabulous 2008! And 2009 will be even better. I’m glad you are not giving up on your first novel. Timing is everything, you know. It’s a great read and 2009 just may be the perfect timing. Happy New Year!

  5. Lani says:

    My Darling Friend!

    I know you have probably given up on me the past 8 months of not writing a single thing, yet I have been watching you from a far. My year has been crazy and with the new company, busy as hell…in a good way. My company is booked into June with more jobs coming in. Yaaahoooo…

    I will leave you with this:

    Leave the past where it is…behind you
    Always look forward with a smile
    Love like you have never loved before

    Always thinking of you, Lani

  6. I have thought of you often this year and wondered how the writing/agent stuff was going. Be of good cheer. The publishing world is in a bit of a tailspin at the moment. I’ve posted some articles about such on Facebook. Don’t let it scare you. I firmly believe that all good stories eventually find a home and a readership. Best wishes to you!

  7. I’m simply thrilled for you this year. You’ve done so much, it’s inspirational. And the way you’ve opened up your heart… Wow.

    I showed my planted flowers outside my door to “T.” I said, “Do you know who inspired me to plant these?”
    Without missing a beat, she said, “Susan.”

  8. I’m not a resolution person either, but I totally made a resolution post on my own blog last year for fun… looking back last week, I completed a whopping 2 out of 10. Wahoo?

    Keep forging ahead with the manuscript and here’s to 2009!

  9. T says:

    Well, I too am very proud of you and the wonderful year you’ve had… AFGO’s and all!!!


    Congrats on these and many future successes. I look forward to reading that novel of yours so keep plugging it.

    And I’m happy to call you friend.

    Here’s to 2009!

    *clink clink*

  10. I never make resolutions…well, almost never. Right now I am just hoping to find a few people willing to actually pay me to take photos (high hopes here), yet I still being a blogging SAHM.

    I think you will have a GREAT 2009 – you definitely have a lot of very wonderful things in the works…both professionally AND personally!!!!

    Happy New Year!!!

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